Falling in love can feel natural and effortless, but maintaining a resilient love relationship can be challenging. Put simply, a loving relationship requires a good bit of work, involving both partners’ understanding, open-mindedness, creativity, playfulness and laughter, to name just a few necessary ingredients.
When a couple walks into my office the first thing I focus on is their communication skills, which are absolutely key regardless of what the points of friction may be.
A relationship is a two-way street. Both partners must learn to express themselves clearly and directly, and on the flip side, learn to actively listen in order to understand what is being communicated.
Following an assessment, we identify the issues that need to be resolved. To resolve the couple’s challenges, we work through cognitive-behavioral methods combined with a psychodynamic approach when appropriate. In this way we strive to identify shared values and achieve mutual trust, honesty, respect, acceptance, and friendship.