- Try new behaviors
- Process feelings in a safe and supportive environment
- Desire Disorders
- Do you have sexual desire for others, but no longer for your partner?
- Do you feel you want to have sex much more/less than your partner?
- Do you have extra marital relationships or sex with more than one partner and have conflicting feelings about it?
- Do you have shameful thoughts about sex or about being sexual?
- Do you feel undesirable?
- Do you find yourself spending significant time on internet sex sites?
- Did you experience physical, emotional, or sexual abuse in your past?
- Did you ever experience a traumatic sexual experience?
- Do you have gender issues?
- Do you question aspects of your own sexuality?
- Do you feel uncomfortable about having a sexual orientation that is different from the people around you?
- Do you have difficulty reaching an orgasm?
- Do you feel reaching an orgasm takes you more time and effort than you would like?
- Do you feel you reach orgasm too quickly?
- Do you have painful intercourse?
- Do you have difficulty gaining and maintaining an erection?
In the western world sexuality is often repressed. As an example, children in our society receive little, if any, sexual education.
Instead, they are exposed regularly to sexual images plastered on billboards and in the media, which contribute to unhealthy ideas, feelings, and behaviors related to this primal force.
Yet, as adults, we are expected to have healthy satisfying sex lives.
Many people living with sexual problems believe the issues cannot be solved. You know there is a problem in your sex life, but feel too embarrassed to bring it up with friends and/or family. Fortunately, it is in a therapeutic setting that you can feel more comfortable sharing sexual issues previously held secret because of fear, shame and guilt.
In sex therapy the focus is on sexual concerns of any kind, through which other psychological issues often become identified and addressed, too.
Often psychosocial issues translate into problems in the bedroom. Any of the following are examples of this: trauma, shame, depression, guilt, anxiety, performance anxiety, poor communication skills, lack of knowledge, fear of touch, and fear of the unknown.
Sexual issues range from problems with desire to physical symptoms. These are actually the body’s manifestation of underlying psychological issues rooted in unconscious motivations and inhibitions.
Problems with desire can include, but are not limited to, difficulty in finding one’s partner attractive, not feeling worthy of being desired, sexual aversion and/or sexual compulsivity.
Physical symptoms can include genital pain and inability to reach orgasm for women, and erectile dysfunction and premature or delayed ejaculation for men.
Sexual disorders for men:
Sexual disorders for women:
Sex therapy is talk therapy in an office setting that involves the clients reflecting back on take-home exercises. Depending on the issues identified, satisfaction may be reached following brief treatment, or prolonged treatment may be warranted in order to resolve more complex issues.
The process of sex therapy involves restoring inhibited sexual impulses and/or desires.
It is strictly a talk therapy (like any other psychotherapy) during which the client is coached through a series of take-home exercises designed to help restore sexual desire and overcome female and/or male sexual dysfunctions.
Embarrassment about discussing sexual issues is quite common. Although more often than not, people have issues in their sex lives, they are afraid to admit or talk about them. Fortunately, sex therapy offers the opportunity to share sexual attitudes and behaviors, which can then lead to breakthroughs and very liberating experiences for many clients.
A qualified sex therapist is a licensed psychotherapist who has had an extensive postgraduate education specializing in sex therapy and has received nationally recognized certification in that field.
No. While sex therapy is my specialty, I treat all related issues including, but not limited to, relationship problems, low self-esteem, self-consciousness, self-blame, obsessive thinking, anxiety, shame, guilt, depression, etc.
Amit Arava, aasect.org